This blog entry’s subject matter goes back two weeks, but the singer’s message resonates for all of us — especially our little ones. It also contains that “You go, girl!” attitude that moms need to carry on and promote for themselves and their families. Really.
Pop/rock singer P!nk (aka Pink, Alecia Moore) received the coveted Michael Jackson Video Vanguard Award during the 2017 MTV Video Music Awards broadcast Aug. 27, 2017, at The Forum in Inglewood, California. Accepting the award after a performing a medley of hits, she seized the moment to address her 6-year-old daughter, Willow, who accompanied her mom and dad, P!nk’s husband, Carey Hart, to the show.
P!nk said her daughter declared herself “the ugliest girl I know” and that she “look(ed) like a boy with long hair” during a recent ride to school. Stunned by her daughter’s words and wondering where they came from, P!nk didn’t say anything. She took a different approach.
P!nk told the audience she compiled a PowerPoint presentation of androgynous rock stars and “artists that live their truth, are probably made fun of every day of their life, and carry on and wave their flag and inspire the rest of us …” — among them Queen’s Freddie Mercury, Prince, Michael Jackson, Janis Joplin, Elton John, George Michael and David Bowie.
Noticing her daughter blown away by the presentation, the momma asked Willow why she feels the way she does, and what she thinks her momma looks like. The little girl told her, “Well, you’re beautiful.” Flattered, P!nk told her daughter that she gets criticized for her looks, her body, her opinions and more, but asked Willow if she sees her mom changing as a result of it. The little girl said no.
“Baby girl, we don’t change,” P!nk said, looking at her daughter in the audience. “We take the gravel and the shell and we make a pearl, and we help other people to change so that they can see more kinds of beauty… and you, my darling girl, are beautiful, and I love you!”
Hearing put-down words from a child would cause any parent to feel awful and wonder what sparked them. No child deserves to be ridiculed for their looks, abilities or talents or should feel down about themselves. Children deserve to be themselves, to be encouraged in all they do and shine in their own way.
P!nk’s message to her daughter is a good one. Don’t change to please others. Be yourself and the right people will like you for who you are.
Shine on, little ones — and parents, too!